Grief Counselling to help you cope with Grief and Loss

Losing someone or something you love is very painful. After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, and guilt. Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. While these feelings can be frightening and overwhelming, they are normal reactions to loss. Accepting them as part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel what you feel is necessary for healing.

Professional Counselling Can Help When Someone Close To You Dies

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What is grief?

Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. You may associate grief with the death of a loved one – and this type of loss does often cause the most intense grief. But any loss can cause grief, including:

  • A relationship breakup
  • Loss of health
  • Losing a job
  • Loss of financial stability
  • A miscarriage
  • Death of a pet
  • Loss of a cherished dream
  • A loved one’s serious illness
  • Loss of a friendship
  • Loss of safety after a trauma

Support for Grieving and Bereavement

There is no right or wrong way to grieve — but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain. You can get through it! Grief that is expressed and experienced has a potential for healing that eventually can strengthen and enrich life.

How you respond to a death or a bereaved person will be very individual and personal. These are some of the things people often say when someone dies. They may help you to feel that you are not completely alone, or to understand what someone you know is going through.

  • ‘I can’t believe it’ – It may take you a long time to grasp what has happened. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important is not coming back
  • ‘I feel nothing’ – The shock can make you numb, you may feel you’re in a different world.
  • ‘Why did it have to happen?’ – Death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together.
  • ‘I feel such pain’ – Physical and mental pain can feel completely overwhelming and very frightening.
  • ‘I go over it again and again’ – You can’t stop thinking about the events leading up to the death.
  • ‘If only’ – You may feel guilty about things you have said or did or that you didn’t say or do.
  • ‘I feel so depressed, life has no meaning, I can’t go on’ – Many people say there are times after a death when they feel there is nothing worth living for and they feel like ending it all.
  • ‘I hear and see her, what is wrong with me?’ – Thinking you are hearing or seeing someone who has died is a common experience and can happen when you least expect it
  • ‘They said I’d be over it in a few months’ – Many people find it takes much longer to learn to cope without someone to love.
  • ‘One minute I’m angry and the next minute I can’t stop crying’ – Many people find the mood swings very frightening.

If you would like to have a chat about this with me, in confidence, please ring me on 07875 596420 to discuss this further